It is true that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. It is vital to also recognize that the the quality of the relationship one has with oneself determines the quality of all of our relationships, including the one with Life.
Begin by noticing your self talk, the conversations you have in your own brain.
* Are they filled with constant criticism, put downs, name calling, hatred, etc?
* Do you avoid the company of your own self?
* Are you able to be "present" with your own emotions, just like you may be with your dearest friend? or do you go drinking, or shopping, or work extra hard to avoid feeling your most tender emotions?
There are various ways to allow yourself the sacred and safe space to avoid abandoning yourself every time a challenging emotion comes up.
Mindfulness Meditation Training is one very effective way to help you develop a beautiful relationship with your mind, emotions and your spirit. Find a class or a personal coach. I recommend reading Jon Kabat-Zinn "Full Catastrophe Living". Thich Nan Han has many resources as well.
Meditative Ecstatic Dancing is another way that I absolutely love!
It is vital to recognize that your body is not you but yours; your thoughts are not you, but yours; your emotions are not you, but yours; not even your behavior is you, but yours!
May you have a beautiful relationship with yourself, your significant others and the world!